Yesterday, I was collecting money for the Tralee branch of Amnesty International, via bucket collection. As it was a bucket collection, it didn’t entail stopping customers, merely sitting in the one spot and interacting with those who donate and asked questions, by choice. Despite this lack of intereference on our part, one man decided he would interfere with us. He approached the table enquiring as to what Amnesty was. He seemed quite hesitant but I assumed this was just due to his confusion of what we were. I began to explain about the various actions we do. I explained about the Human Rights Activisits in Malawi who were under threat of death, and how we sent money to them so they could get round the clock protection. I was half way through explaining the death penalty actions when he suddenly interrupted saying “Ye’re after the babys. Ye want abortions and all that ole stuff”. Shook his head and walked away, while I was still mid-sentence.
Now I’m all for freedom of speech, but I think that should include listening to the other persons views too and engaging in some form of discussion. Not cutting someone off mid-sentence, making one single-minded point as if thats all Amnesty does, and then walking off once you’ve had your say. I was really not happy about that incident and hoped noone else would react this badly.
Then he came back a second time to say ” You’re by the way doing good but killing babys”, to which I replied “No, this is the Tralee Amnesty branch, we sent aid to countries that need it and our main campaign at the moment is getting rid of the death penalty”. I proceeded to pick up the petition against the death penalty and was (AGAIN) still speaking when he said “No you’re killing babies, thats all your about”, so I gave up and said “Im just trying to do a job here” and stopped engaging in vain attempts to get through to his ignorant head. A nice lady came over so I spoke to her instead, and he began to wander off, but not without saying one last time ” you’re killing babies”.
In my opinion, that was the height of ignorance and rudeness. To approach me twice with this verbal attack, while I’m just trying to collect money for a cause, alone. There were other collectors but they were all older, and many in groups. To target the youngest and a person on their own is just cowardly. If you’re really bursting to share your opinion that much, why not get two ears instead of one. After the first time he approached I considered that maybe he just felt strongly about this particular issue and felt compelled to say something. But the second instance was just pure rudeness. I was making good points, and he ignored them all because he just wanted to focus on one issue that he could pick fault with. (He could hardly have a problem with a petition against the death penalty or sending aid to people that need it.) But I also told him that this was the Tralee Branch of Amnesty, and if he had the decency to listen who would’ve realised this meant that we don’t have anything to do with abortion, because Ireland said no to Abortion. Therefore we don’t do any work on abortion, but other Amnesty International committes in other countries do. If he’d listened to what I was telling him about the work that we do, he would’ve understood that there is no requirement to be involved in every campaign, so even if Irish Amnesty was pro-abortion, this mighn’t mean I was involved in any way, with that particular area. He wasted both our time due to his own ignorance. Thats why I think its important for freedom of speech to include active listening, otherwise whats the point. You’re not going to learn anything, or understand the other person, or have any kind of worthwhile conversation.
I find that peoples attitudes towards other charities can be quite disheartening too. I work in a charity shop, Threshold. A few times people have tried to bargain down the prices of items and have become quite hostile when we haven’t complied to their wishes. This despite the fact that there are numerous large signs around the shop stating that we cannot bring the prices down any lower than they are. 95% of items are 0.50c – €6. The only prices higher than that are when we recieve expensive items like garden equipment, and even at that, the most expensive tends to be €20, even though they’re brand new, still in the box and worth €50-€60. Its generally items that are in the €2-€3 region that become a problem. People seem to forget this isn’t a shop with a sale on. Its a charity shop raising money for Homeless people. Threshold stores in Ireland overall save 2 homes from becoming homeless daily. They really depend on the funds from their shops to raise the majority of this money. I think its wrong, personally, for people to try and bargain items to lower prices when the proceeds are going to such a good cause. I know its a recession but these prices are really good value and many items are brand new, or at least in the best of condition. However little money someone might have, someone who is homeless has a lot less. People seem to forget that..